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Column: “The Language of Monogamy”

Written by
Troy Bordun
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March 31, 2016
Column: “The Language of Monogamy”

This column is an ongoing project. I welcome submissions from everyone and anyone. The space can be used for written texts and artistic creations on the subject of language and relationships, particularly compulsory monogamy. Written submissions can be up to 250 words, and artistic creations can be sent in .jpg format to troybordun@trentu.ca. See last week’s issue of Arthur for more details.

Authors and artists may discuss and present their personal experience(s) with compulsory monogamy or take a stab at developing new words and phrases to improve our colloquial language around and about relationships. Your submission may be published under your name, a pseudonym or anonymously.

I hope we can all take something away from the below submission.

 

Conversations about sexual preference are endlessly difficult to navigate. My own fluid attraction to genders and bodies is a recognized, though contentious, subject for friends and family. Alternatives to the language of compulsory monogamy aren’t even a blip on the radar.

This isn’t to say the lack of recognition is intentional; these kinds of oversights are, often, exactly that: oversights. Sometimes they are unintentional slights that can fly under the radar, unnoticed by the person speaking. Sometimes not.

The following passage paraphrases a conversation I recently had with a loved one when they asked me, generally, how things were going in my life.

Myself: I’m great! I had a date with X.

Friend: Oh no! So you broke up with Y?

Myself: No.

Friend: So you’re fighting with Y?

Myself: No, everything’s fine.

Friend: So you haven’t told Y about X…

And so on. This snowballing situation may be familiar to those of us in non-monogamous relationships.

The assumption that a date with a lover means discontent within, or even the end of, a partnership is inherently hurtful. It passes judgement on my capacity to have love for my partner while simultaneously having other romantic experiences.

My suggestion to foster dialogue that is more inclusive of non-monogamous individuals and relationships is this: curb the assumptions, such as the thought that anything other than monogamous behaviour indicates wrongness or sickness in a relationship. Doing so would be a kindness to our partners, our lovers, our friends and ourselves.

Severn Court (October-August)
Theatre Trent 2023/24
Arthur News School of Fish
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